Spice Up Your Bedroom with Feng Shui
By: Michelle Magnan, Canwest News Service
If you can't seem to land a date, take a long hard look at your bedroom setup. Do you have only one bedside table? Is your bed pushed up against your wall? Is your closet messy? If so, single friend, you may unknowingly be crushing your abilities to attract a mate.
According to feng shui, the Chinese philosophy of design and arrangement that's meant to facilitate the flow of positive energy, there are many rules to keep in mind when planning your bedroom space. "In feng shui, the bedroom is the most important room in your house because you spend most of your life in there," says Gina Dolinsky, a feng shui consultant and the founder of Calgary-based Living Spaces. "The energy in there is affecting you a lot. If you're going to spend some time and money, that's a great place to invest in yourself to make it an oasis, your nest, your place that you love."
Read on for Dolinsky's steps on how to create the perfect bedroom, which will, she says, help you find the love that you're looking for.
- Get rid of all the clutter. That means getting rid of the junk in your closet, drawers and under your bed. "And not only physical clutter, but cleaning up old relationships and letting go of stuff, thoughts, patterns in our lives," says Dolinsky.
- Stand in your bedroom doorway and look to the far, back, right-hand corner of the room. What do you see there? What feeling does that corner give you? It's important, because that's the relationship area of your room."What we want is a feeling of love, good feelings, happy feelings," she says. If the corner is messy, clean it up and then place items there that will "activate the energy." Fresh flowers are a good choice, because they bring a "delightful, life-giving energy. If it's dark, add a lamp with soft lighting. Pairs of things are great for this corner, so consider adding two candles or two hangings. And consider adding a loving colour to the corner, whether it be with red or pink paint or items that represent love.
- Whether you're looking for love or are in a relationship, it's a good idea rid your room of anything distracting. That means you should give TVs and computers the boot, or at least hide them. "In your bedroom, the most important activities are sleeping and making love, so those are the things you need to do --not reading and watching TV," says Dolinsky.
- How big is your bed? If it's a king-sized, you may want to downsize to a queen. "King-sized beds have a split down the middle where the box springs are two separate box springs, so that can create a split in a relationship," she says. Plus, they're huge and don't promote intimacy.
- Now that you have the right size of bed, invest in a big, solid headboard, especially if you're single. "It actually gives you a feeling of being taken care of and being supported," says Dolinsky. A solid board is better, so try to avoid iron beds and boards with wooden slats. "You want a solid feeling behind you."
- Move your bed away from the wall so that it's centred and not lined up with the doorway. "If you were to draw a straight line through your doorway to the other wall, your bed shouldn't fall in that line," she says.The far corner away from the door is usually a great spot, but, again, make sure it's not against the wall. Also, make sure there's nothing underneath your bed. "Otherwise you might have a lot of baggage that you attract in a new relationship and your health may be affected."
- Now that your bed is in the right spot, what's on your bed? Ratty old sheets may not be the way to go. Change your bedding to make it more romantic; use the colour red and invest in quality sheets. If red sheets are a little much for your taste, Dolinsky suggests putting a red cloth under the mattress. "The colour red is a sexy colour. It's energizing," she says.
- Time for bedside tables. The rules are simple: make sure you have two, one on each side, and that they're exactly the same. "If you have two that are quite different, then that will equate to how your relationship is going to be," she says. "One person may be dominant."
- Last, consider adding dark colours to the room, be it with paint, a comforter or pillows."You can go with darker colours in a bedroom because you're promoting coziness and good ability to sleep," says Dolinsky. The idea is to create a cosy den, rather than a bright, cavernous room. "So if you have one of those new, huge bedrooms, then you may want to put up screens or even have a canopy bed to bring in more intimacy to where you're sleeping."
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